05 March 2012 ~ 1 Comment

Just do it

It’s so interesting to me to read this chapter, because the activities they talk about throughout the chapter are exactly the type of things Melissa and I do in our relational work; looking for conversations during long drives, highs and lows (where have you seen God working?), transparency (doubts, telling our stories, talking about mistakes), setting time for intentional conversations, etc.  There are actually many more opportunities for these types of things for families.

I think this is really good news for families, because I can tell you that these types of conversations and somewhat forced activities can be very awkward at first, but it doesn’t take long for talking about God or sharing a high and low to be so natural that kids thinking about what they will say beforehand and become eager to share.

Another point that I don’t think they made a big enough deal about is that WE HAVE TO TALK ABOUT FAITH.  Not church, not activities, but faith.  What is God up to in me and the world around me?  Unless we connect our good actions (living our faith) with the “theological reflection” (words) to frame those actions, our kids won’t connect them.  This takes practice, and dare I say our own Bible study and reading and sermon listening to be able to frame our actions with words.  We need information and other adults who know us well to help us frame our lives with words of faith.

TRY IT

What would happen if we tried one of these conversational rituals described in this chapter with our family this week.  Just one, but do it this week.  Pick one you know will work and report back here next week (or, if you’re on a trip next week you might try it when you have a captive audience).

Here’s a list of activities I distilled from this chapter

  • Highs and lows shared over a meal (+ when you saw God working)
  • Carve out time with just 1-2 kids (activity plus conversation)
  • Have an intentional faith conversation on a long(er) drive
  • Take a walk with just one of your kids
  • Cook/bake something together (then pig out)
  • Creative worship experience

 

One Response to “Just do it”

  1. Angie 6 March 2012 at 3:14 pm Permalink

    I really liked the practicality of the last two chapters. They are reassuring in that our family actually does some of the suggested practices, and they are also inspiring. As my older (mostly silent) son turns 13 next week, I can so feel him pulling away and becoming even more silent, and there are some great ideas in these chapters for staying connected with him and drawing him out of that shell. My husband and I actually took him out for dinner without his brother this weekend and had some good conversation and laughter. It’s progress, right? I also want to try having one-on-one time with each of the boys.

    My high this week was meeting some new friends at my little one’s new school. My low was having each boy sick at different times this week; one with an allergic/asthmatic attack, which, although it turned out fine, was a little scary.


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